Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Life Lessons

While visiting my family in Idaho I was able to attend a few Enrichment nights. I was fortunate enough to listen to my Mom and her good friend speak in my old ward growing up. The topic was on optimism, and my mom shared with all of us Regina Brett's 45 Lessons life has taught her. She is a columnist for the Cleavland Plain Dealer newspaper, and her 45 Lessons article was the most requested.

Since being home I can't stop thinking about all of the different lessons learned that I want to take and add into my own personal life. I would like to share it with you.

To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.

It is the most-requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolls over to 50 this week, so here's an update:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years, will this matter?"

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

36. Growing old beats the alternative - dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.

38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

42. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

45. The best is yet to come.

46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

48. If you don't ask, you don't get.

49. Yield.

50. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.


Julee said...

My mom told me what a wonderful job your mom did - wish I could have been there!

chadnsue said...

Rylie, that is wonderful, I have never heard it before and I'm going to try to live by it. See you soon, Love ya Sue

Bobby and M!kell said...

one of my favorites! had a friend give it to me awhile ago. =) thanks for the reminder.

Danny and Lauren's Blog said...

Wow, I love that! I might just have to print it out and put it somewhere I can see it all the time. Thanks! XO, L

Aubreydoll said...

Everything on there is so true!

Michelle said...

So perfectly stated...50 times! :) I love them!! Love to you my friend. Optimism is always the key, but I think we both know that even if its hard sometimes!

christine! said...

Thanks for posting that Rylie! I needed to read that!

Kelsey said...

Thanks Ry, I needed that today! I'm so grateful your my sister I LOVE YOU! SQUEEZE!

J&E said...

Awesome. btw I craved chocolate milk too at the very end of my pregnancy, and now I can't have any of it because it hurts Jane's tummy (boo!)

Willow said...

Being in the 50s age group, I've lived most of these and know she' right!

Caysi and Stephen said...

Hey I need to add another here it is....always get your hair done it makes you feel good:) What do you think? LOL!

Jill Grossaint said...

Thank you Rylie, I was having a really down day today and after reading your list of 50 life lessons I feel very positive and very hopeful for the future.